I cannot stress enough how soothing and how important writing, meditation, and contemplation are in your healing process when you go through a divorce.

When I was going through my own divorce, these were life savers. I had so many thoughts and feelings to process, and the act of putting them down on paper helped me get the anguish out of my system and make some sense of what was happening.

If you aren’t writing, meditating and contemplating regularly yet, you can start by getting a pretty notebook now. Write down your thoughts and feelings. Just let everything flow out of you. It doesn’t have to be at a particular time or in a particular place.

Lots of people like to make it a practice to write in the morning. That’s not necessary, but it can be a beautiful way to start your day. Although I don’t always do it, I like to start the morning with meditation as soon as I get up and then write a little. Many things come up during meditation that I can write about, and I contemplate them more as I write.

But just the act of writing will give you plenty to contemplate! It really does start the day off right. I love having a beautiful notebook, like this one in the picture, of Saraswati, the Indian goddess of music, wisdom, and learning. And I like to have a special pen, like this one of Sekmet, the Egyptian goddess of healing and power.

And it’s so uplifting to have a pretty flower on the table. Flowers themselves are tranquil and healing.