When you face an unwelcome change, like a divorce, it’s natural to fear the future. Fear of the unknown may cause you to want to cling to the past, even if you know that your marriage was unhealthy.
But you can’t feel happy when you’re hanging by your fingernails to love that no longer exists.
Letting go is one of the scariest things you can do, but it can be liberating. Often we’re afraid to let go because we think that what’s ahead won’t be as good as what we’re leaving behind — even if what we’re leaving behind isn’t so great.
At least it’s familiar.
But the truth is, what’s ahead might be a lot better.
In the final analysis, letting go feels better than clinging. There’s no desperation in it, no white knuckling. When you cling, you’re imprisoned by trying to keep things the same. But when you let go, suddenly you have many options.
You also gain power, because when you move towards something you fear, you’re no longer controlled by it. You dominate it. And the forward movement energizes a higher force within you, causing unforeseen possibilities to start lining up.
As Lao Tzu said, “To hold, you must first open your hand. Let go.”
To open fully to the next love, you must let go of the last one.